I wanted to share some tips on how to successfully accomplish your New Year’s Resolutions.
I know that everyone takes the opportunity to use the changing of a year to initiate a change in themselves. These are our New Year’s resolutions.
I admire people who try to take action to change a part of them that they don’t like or believe they can enhance. This is a sign of action. This is a sign of growth. Both of these are good qualities to have. It’s better than sitting there hoping that things will get better without taking personal responsibility and blaming others for your shortcomings. So, pat yourself on the back for taking control of your life this year.
For the New Year, reflect on the positive of the last year. Be happy for what you have accomplished, I’m sure you worked really hard for everything. Also, reflect on some of the negatives. Figure out why there were some failures, mistakes, mishaps, or bad luck. What can you change about yourself that will hopefully equate to a higher rate of success? Now that you have reflected, it’s time to start your list of resolutions.
After writing your New Year’s Resolutions, what now? It is time to follow through and make 2012 the beginning of an upward trend; this trend that will lead you to become the person you truly envision being. But what can you do to ensure success? Here are a couple of tips that you can use to make 2012 a greater success than last year.
1. Write down your resolutions.
Pen on paper last longer then wishful thinking.
- Have you ever noticed that if you don’t write something down you tend to forget it? Think of the last time you went grocery shopping. If you had a list, you probably got everything you wanted, except for the small pony (out of stock, sorry). If you didn’t have a grocery list you probably had to take multiple trips or had to substitute ingredients in your home-made lunch. The point is that writing things down helps us remember what we want. It also holds us accountable to ourselves. There is just something psychological about thinking a resolution, saying it to someone, or actually writing it down on paper.
- So sit down in a quiet room, by yourself. Reflect on what you like and what you don’t like about yourself . This is called taking inventory of yourself. Make resolutions that strengthen the things you like, and eliminate the things you don’t like. Make the list as long as you want. Then rank your top 5, top 10, etc. This will help focus your goals. Put stars next to with those you think you might need help. Start brain storming how to set operation “New You” into effect.
2. Have a support system.
Family, friends, and coworkers.
- There are some things you can do alone but sometimes you need that extra bit of strength, not to give into your old habits or to push you just a little bit beyond your comfort zone.
- Remember, accountability is powerful. If you make sure to have a person that can hold you accountable for your goals then it should increase your chances of success.
- Surrounding yourself with the right crowd is another form of support. People do what their friends do. Make sure that you have the right friends so you accomplish your goals this year.
- One trick that I enjoy using is telling everyone who I associate with what I want to do. Then I ask those who might share similar goals if they want to buddy up and tackle the new year together. For goals I don’t share with others, I ask friends to hold me accountable every week for my goals. I give them permission to scold me and punish me for losing focus. Coupled with notes and letters I leave around the house, I have to deliberately give up on my goal in order to fail.
3. Make short term resolutions that you can build upon.
Each success is motivation to continue winning.
- A journey of a thousand miles starts with one step. The first goal is to get started. Once the first step is taken, there are hundreds of tiny victories that eventually build up to a massive accomplishment. So remember to set long-term goals but also create smaller, more simple milestones that will keep you moving in the right direction. This will keep you motivated because you’ll feel good about each small victory and look forward to the next.
- Goal setting is actually pretty difficult. A lot of us just want to set a goal, try moving towards it, not thinking of the sheer size of the goal or time it may take. This mentality may result in a loss of motivation. Many people are short-sighted and lose track of their goals because of work, school, and family. So take some time to set the ultimate goal, then backwards plan from there. Keep each step simple, something that you can easily do. For example, if your goal is to get a better job some easy goals may be: enroll in school, take one or two classes or certificates, open up a monster.com account, or start revising your résumé, etc.
4. Don’t be rigid with your goals.
Don’t give up just because you failed once.
- Many people defeat themselves when it comes to change. I hear this all the time, “ I messed up yesterday on my diet so I’ll start again on Monday” and its only Tuesday. Sometimes people use failure as an excuse to put their goals off. Don’t use one messup as an excuse to put off who you want to be. My advice is as soon as you can refocus and continue. You should not start over. If you can’t look past your mistakes and you put things off, you will never accomplish anything. Harsh dose of truth is you’re going to fail many times in life but the difference will come when you push past the obstacles and keep your eyes focused on success.
- Very little explaining is necessary here. Basically if you mess up you can’t continue to mess up. When you fall, stand up , wipe that dirt off you shoulder, recompose yourself, refocus yourself and attempt to limit actions that go against what your goals are. The worst way to go forward is by going backwards or staying still.
5. Use your strength to overcome your weakness.
Think outside the box.
- If you focus more on the good things in life then you might forget about doing the bad things.
- Utilize something you’re good at to create a better environment for success.
6. Use your resources.
Don’t reinvent the wheel.
- There’s a reason why you put yourself into a situation where you had to make a resolution. Utilize your resources: ask your friends, consult an expert, ask your family for advice. Google is not the only place to search and it is not always accurate. Remember that two brains, in most situations, are better then one. Asking someone for help might give you a different perspective on the problem.
- Every single decision I make I want to make sure I am not re-inventing the wheel. So I ask friends, family and co-workers for advice. Even if they don’t know sometimes they can offer a different perspective or approach that may lead down the path of success.
7. Don’t buy into the hype.
There aren’t any magic pills
- Remember, depending on how old you are you have most likely developed whatever habit you’re trying to kick for most of your life. That means years of creating bad or undesirable habits. Don’t think that in just one month of telling yourself this is the year, you will finally make it happen. It takes time to change and even more time to change permanently. There are no magic cures, no single response, no simple “duct tape can fix it all answer.” Expect things to take time. Expect them to be hard. Expect to feel uncomfortable. Expect to have a little bit of failure. But ultimately expect to accomplish your goal.
- So be patient. Be disciplined. Be optimistic. Whatever you do, don’t give up on yourself or the people around you. Even if you want to give up think about those who see you as a role model. Set a good example of discipline, determination, and hard work.